What counts as cheating?

If you and your partner use the same word but picture different situations, start with a specific example.

Flirting

A one-off compliment can feel different from a private exchange that keeps getting more intimate. Ask what each of you considers playful and when it starts to feel romantic.

Staying in touch with an ex

A birthday message, shared responsibilities and a dinner can each carry different expectations. Try discussing whether advance notice would change how you feel about a one-on-one plan.

Direct messages

Consider the tone and purpose of a conversation. You might be comfortable with private chats and still want a clear agreement about sexual messages.

Dating apps

Some people draw the line at keeping an active profile. Others care about matching, messaging or arranging a date. Talk through each step when you discuss exclusivity.

Secrecy and agreements

Try the same scenario twice. Imagine your partner tells you in advance about dinner with an ex. Now imagine they say they were out with coworkers. Would your answer change? Use that difference to name what matters to you.