Is This
Cheating?

People draw the line in different places. The scenarios help you identify what matters to you, from romantic intent to agreements you’ve made together.

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1. Grabs coffee alone with a coworker and mentions it when you ask about their day.
2. Goes to a concert one-on-one with a longtime friend you’ve never met.
3. Dances close to a stranger for one song at a wedding.
4. Shares a hotel room with a friend on a trip, with separate beds, and tells you beforehand.
5. Lets someone buy them a drink without mentioning they’re in a relationship.
6. Gives someone they’ve admitted having a crush on a ride home, then tells you about it.
7. Takes a friend as their plus-one to an event you can’t attend.
8. Holds hands with a friend who is nervous during a medical appointment.
9. Leaves a fire emoji on someone’s gym selfie.
10. Replies to a stranger’s story with “You looked incredible tonight,” then keeps chatting.
11. Exchanges flirty DMs with someone they’ve never met in person.
12. Keeps a dating profile active to see who likes them, without messaging anyone.
13. Matches with someone on a dating app and chats without making plans to meet.
14. Sends someone a sexual message in a chat set to disappear.
15. Pays for private, personalized flirty messages from a creator.
16. Roleplays a romance with another player in an online game and keeps the chat in character.
17. Texts an ex “happy birthday” and leaves it at that.
18. Meets an ex for dinner and tells you about it before they go.
19. Meets an ex for dinner and tells you they were out with coworkers.
20. Keeps old vacation photos with an ex in their camera roll.
21. Reaches out to an old crush right after the two of you have an argument.
22. Tells an ex, “Sometimes I wonder what would’ve happened if we’d stayed together.”
23. Has a weekly call with an ex to coordinate care for a pet they share.
24. Accepts a handwritten love letter from an ex and replies, “I miss you too.”
25. Asks a close friend for advice about a disagreement you had.
26. Tells someone else they wish they could talk to you the way they talk to them.
27. Deletes a conversation because they think you’d find the tone too flirty.
28. Makes someone they’re attracted to the first person they call with big news.
29. Tells someone they’re attracted to them, but says they don’t intend to act on it.
30. Takes a friend to a spot you’d both planned to visit for your anniversary.
31. Tells a close friend they feel lonely in the relationship, with no flirting involved.
32. Lets a friend keep calling their outings “dates,” even though they say it’s a joke.
33. Keeps exchanging flirty messages after you both agreed that was out of bounds.
34. Kisses someone during a break when you hadn’t discussed whether you could see other people.
35. Goes on a date with someone after you explicitly agreed to be exclusive.
36. Kisses someone in a party game after you both agreed that would be okay.
37. Kisses someone in a party game after you both agreed that would be out of bounds.
38. Goes on a date with someone else after several dates with you, before you’ve talked about exclusivity.
39. Sends a flirty voice note to someone after you agreed flirting in person was okay but never talked about messages.
40. Books a weekend away with someone they once dated after promising to check in with you first.